Me and my generation:
Me and my generation:
this is uncomfortably true a lot of the time
‘Fat’ is usually the first insult a girl throws at another girl when she wants to hurt her.
I mean, is ‘fat’ really the worst thing a human being can be? Is ‘fat’ worse than ‘vindictive’, ‘jealous’, ‘shallow’, ‘vain’, ‘boring’ or ‘cruel’? Not to me; but then, you might retort, what do I know about the pressure to be skinny? I’m not in the business of being judged on my looks, what with being a writer and earning my living by using my brain…
I went to the British Book Awards that evening. After the award ceremony I bumped into a woman I hadn’t seen for nearly three years. The first thing she said to me? ‘You’ve lost a lot of weight since the last time I saw you!’
‘Well,’ I said, slightly nonplussed, ‘the last time you saw me I’d just had a baby.’
What I felt like saying was, ‘I’ve produced my third child and my sixth novel since I last saw you. Aren’t either of those things more important, more interesting, than my size?’ But no – my waist looked smaller! Forget the kid and the book: finally, something to celebrate!
I’ve got two daughters who will have to make their way in this skinny-obsessed world, and it worries me, because I don’t want them to be empty-headed, self-obsessed, emaciated clones; I’d rather they were independent, interesting, idealistic, kind, opinionated, original, funny – a thousand things, before ‘thin’. And frankly, I’d rather they didn’t give a gust of stinking chihuahua flatulence whether the woman standing next to them has fleshier knees than they do. Let my girls be Hermiones, rather than Pansy Parkinsons.
this is personally in my list of things you must reblog when you see it
Love this women.
Marissa Mayer’s Widower Debuts on Philanthropic Stage
** note: this is a genderflip of this NYTimes article . Also note that while writing this post, the NYTimes changed their title to “Steve Job’s Widow steps onto Philanthropic Stage” I guess they realized the previous title was a bit much.
Zachary Bogue, the widower of Marissa Mayer at YahooMartin Castro knew the tall brunette man only as Zachary, his mentor. They met every few weeks in a rough Silicon Valley neighborhood the year that Mr. Castro was applying to college, and they e-mailed often, bonding over conversations about Mr. Castro’s difficult childhood. Without Zachary’s help, Mr. Castro said, he might not have become the first person in his family to graduate from college.
It was only later, when he was a freshman at University of California, Berkeley, that Mr. Castro read a news article and realized that Zachary was Silicon Valley royalty, the husband of Yahoo’s CEO, Marissa A. Mayer.
“I just became 10 times more appreciative of his humility and how humble he was in working with us in East Palo Alto,” Mr. Castro said.
The story, friends and colleagues say, is classic Zachary Bogue. Famous because of his last name and fortune, he has always been private and publicity-averse. his philanthropic work, especially on education causes like College Track, the college prep organization he helped found and through which he was Mr. Castro’s mentor, has been his priority and focus.
Now, less than two years after Ms. Mayer’s death, Mr. Zachary Bogue is becoming somewhat less private. he has tiptoed into the public sphere, pushing his agenda in education as well as global conservation, nutrition and immigration policy. Just last month, for example, he sat down for a rare television interview, discussing the immigration bill before Congress. he has also taken on new issues, like gun control.
“he’s been mourning for a year and was grieving for five years before that,” said Larry Brilliant, president of the Skoll Global Threats Fund who is an old friend of Ms. Mayer. “his life was about his family and Marissa, but he is now emerging as a potent force on the world stage, and this is only the beginning.”
But he is doing it his way.
Sarah Allen, computer programmer and founder of Blazing Cloud, challenges those who argue that it is difficult to find female programmers.
Allen runs free workshops on Ruby on Rails for women, offering the trainings on weekends and providing childcare. She has worked to create an environment where women feel welcome and notes, “Every single workshop we’ve ever held has had a waiting list.”
Read more about Allen’s programming career and her work to diversify the field: Blazing The Trail For Female Programmers : All Tech Considered : NPR. This is part of NPR’s special series The Changing Lives of Women.
Looking for more workshops? Check out Code With Me, a coding workshop which was co-founded by female programmer Sisi Wei.